My time: Courage

How do you know it's time for a change?

We were sitting having coffee.

" And how did you know that was it? " Michela asked me, without hesitation, honestly, as only women know when they want to understand something from the inside. Not out of curiosity, but out of longing.

" I didn't know ," I said.

" I just knew I didn't want to live like this anymore. "

And that seemed like a good enough start to me.

Restlessness as an internal compass

Sometimes we don't know exactly what we want. But we know that what we have is no longer for us. And that restlessness – silent, persistent, wordless – starts to follow us.

It came to me uninvited, but persistent. First as a feeling of dissatisfaction that I tried to rationalize, and then as a constant thought: "Is this - that?"

I started looking for women who had stepped into the unknown. I listened to podcasts, read newsletters, devoured the stories of those who had gone from the “safe” to something they couldn’t explain, but had to try.

I didn't follow them because I wanted to copy. I followed them because I wanted to believe. That it was possible. That I could do it too.

When change catches you while holding a baby in your arms

"It sounds strange, but even though it should be one of the most fulfilling moments, when I became a mom I was overwhelmed by the feeling that I can't do this anymore." Michela told me.

And that's where we found ourselves. At that moment when what was can no longer last.

“I had no plan. I had no answers. I had a child who needed me, a feeling that haunted me, and a silent thought that there had to be something more. Something mine.”

Michela knew she wanted to give her son Thomas the freedom to follow his dreams, but how could she teach him that if she wasn't ready to take that step herself? That inner call to move into the unknown was her way of showing him how to live courage every day.

Moé started from that thought. In a moment that didn't seem perfect. In fact, it was anything but ideal. But it was true.

“Zoe and I realized that we will never have everything arranged. That we have to create the moment ourselves. That perfect moments don't come – they are created.”

Permission to want more

I too had to tell myself once: I can want this. I can ask for more. Even though everything looks good from the outside, even though there's nothing "bad", something told me - it could be different.

I gave myself permission to ask. To dream. To not be grateful for what is not mine. And that doesn't make me greedy, but honest.

Michela had the same moment.

"I had a baby in one arm, fear in my stomach, and chaos in my head. And I said to myself: if I don't try now, when will I?"

Without safe paths, but with support

Courage is not glamorous. It doesn't come with fanfare. It often looks like a tired woman typing an email at midnight because the child is finally asleep, and she is finally breathing.

But courage is also the feeling that you are not alone.

"Zoe and I were each other's tailwinds. We were scared, but we held on," Michela told me.

I had my allies too. Women who reminded me of who I am and who I can be.
Sometimes you don't need a compass - just a hand to pull you along.

Book of the Month: Choose the battles that matter

"You only have so many fcks to give. So choose them wisely."*
– Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck*

This is not your typical self-help book. It doesn't offer recipes, it asks questions. It doesn't promise ease, it promises clarity.

In the month when we talk about courage , we chose a book that encourages discernment. Because it is not brave to throw yourself into everything. It is brave to know what is no longer yours , what no longer deserves your attention , and where you want to go – even if you don't know how yet .

This book reminded us that energy is a limited currency. And that we should save it for what we really want to build.

When you say “no” to the things that drain you, that’s a beginning. When you decide that this is no longer enough – even though it may seem “okay” – that’s courage.

That's why this is the book of the month in my time . Because it reminds us that we don't have to have everything. Only what is truly ours.

The myth of the perfect moment

According to the Global Dreams Index , more than 50% of women worldwide give up on their dreams because they think it's "not the right time."

But as Michela says:

" If I don't try now, when will I?"

Don't wait for everything to fall into place. Don't wait to become someone else.
Your future version won't wait for you - you have to reach it.

You may not know what you want – but you know you can't do it like this anymore.

If anything in this story touched you – know that you are not alone.

Maybe you don't know exactly what you want today.
Maybe you don't know where to start.
But you know you don't want it like this anymore.

And you know what?

That's enough.

Your time starts here.

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Author: Dea Valenta